7 Signs Your Wife Is Struggling (That She'll Never Say Out Loud)

Suzanne Yatim Aslam had postpartum depression after her son was born, and in this conversation she tells dads exactly what it looked like from the inside, including the part almost nobody says out loud: for a while, she blamed her baby for ruining her life. Her husband didn't know. She never asked for help. She just kept saying she was fine.
This is part of NEW DAD WEEK, five short episodes for expecting dads and dads in the first year. We built a free field guide to go with it: the main points from every episode plus prompts you can actually use. Grab it at frontrowdads.com/newdad.
IN THIS EPISODE:
"Depression is its own character in your brain, and it tells you lies"
What it feels like to blame your own child, and why that's the illness talking
Why "I'm fine" is the most dangerous sentence in your house right now
Why she needed her husband to advocate for her when she couldn't advocate for herself
What NOT to say: "enjoy it, it goes so fast" and "at least he's healthy," and why they make a drowning mom feel worse
The systems that actually helped her recover: solo days, therapy, and a daily mid-day break
Fix it or feel it: the four-word question that tells you what she actually needs
A note: this episode discusses depression and mental health honestly. If you or your partner are struggling, please talk to a doctor or a therapist. In the US, you can call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, and Postpartum Support International is at 1-800-944-4773.
Hear Suzanne's full conversation at frontrowdads.com/341