The Marriage Reset You Didn’t Know You Needed: Enneagram With Christa Hardin EP 147

Christa Hardin, an expert on the Enneagram, joins Heather Brown to explore how personality types influence marriage, intimacy, and personal growth. They discuss the three core instincts—self-preservation, social, and sexual—and how understanding these can improve relationships and self-awareness. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood by your spouse, struggled to connect, or wondered why certain needs feel so important to you (but not to them), this conversation will bring so much clarity. In this episode, they talk about the three core instincts (self-preservation, one-to-one, and social), how they show up in everyday life and relationships, and how understanding them can completely change the way you approach your marriage.In this conversation, they will also get honest about:
Why date nights matter more than you think
What might actually be behind a lack of desire in marriage
The role of hormones, mental load, and communication
How to create deeper connection (emotionally, spiritually, and physically)
A faith-based perspective on intimacy and protecting your marriage
Christa brings both wisdom and practical tools from her 20+ years of working with couples, and this episode is packed with takeaways you can apply right away.
00:00 Introduction to Christa and the Enneagram
01:05 Christa's background and credibility
02:16 Understanding the three core instincts
03:58 How instincts influence marriage dynamics
06:32 Different types and their expressions in relationships
09:09 Enneagram and intimacy in the bedroom
12:27 Biblical views on sexuality and purity culture
15:14 Impact of culture and social media on sexuality
18:03 Balancing the types and instincts in marriage
22:13 Using AI and technology responsibly in relationships
28:57 Common Enneagram pairings and marriage dynamics
31:08 Christa's resources and where to find her
32:58 Christa's personal reset and self-care tips
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