Why your team can’t be your friends (and where the line actually is)

You thought she was a friend. Then the reorg came out and she found out with everyone else. What felt like a betrayal was a clarity problem. In this episode, Lia Garvin breaks down the difference between being friendly with your team and being their friend, what self-management really means before any other management tool can work, and the one thing to say upfront that changes the entire dynamic.
In this episode you will learn:
Why the betrayal your team feels when hard news hits is almost never about what you did, and what it actually is
The kinds of things you will always know as a leader that your team cannot know yet, and why that is the job
Where the friendship line quietly blurs: lending money, bending policies, venting, inviting one person and not all
What equitable management looks like and why it protects everyone, including you
The one sentence to say when you hire someone that sets the dynamic from day one
Resources mentioned:
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