The fawn response: The survival instinct behind people-pleasing | Hyperfocus

Are you mad at me? It’s a question “Hyperfocus” host Rae Jacobson has asked more times than she can count.
So when Rae saw a book with that exact title, she was a little unnerved. The book is by psychotherapist Meg Josephson, and it’s about the fawn response: a survival instinct that can look like people-pleasing.
In this conversation, Meg breaks down what fawning is and why it’s hard to spot — and even harder to stop doing
Meg explains how fawning overlaps with (but isn’t identical to) rejection sensitive dysphoria and why it shows up as masking for a lot of neurodivergent people. And she talks about the moment she realized that years of people-pleasing meant she really didn’t know herself at all.
In this episode of “Hyperfocus,” learn about a pattern a lot of us have been running on autopilot without realizing it. And learn subtle strategies for change.
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