Ep 67: Fair Is Fair... Why Compersion Only Goes So Far

👀 “You had your threesome, now it’s my turn!” Sound familiar? Let’s talk about the myth of keeping it even in the lifestyle.
👉 In this episode of Vanilla Swingers — Apple’s #1 ranked swinger podcast — we’re diving into the messy, emotional minefield of scorekeeping in non-monogamy. Kat & Leo unpack why fair doesn’t always mean 50/50, how compersion and jealousy can exist in the same night, and why trying to “trade” experiences can backfire fast. Spoiler: your lizard brain doesn’t care about your relationship agreements when it’s spiraling.
👉 So is compersion real? Yes. But it has limits. And fairness? That’s a whole other beast.
🍦 Dive in and enjoy every spoonful of our super candid newbie journey as we go from vanilla…to 69 flavors! Always hilarious, unhinged, bite-size and commercial-free!
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